Resolving Interpersonal Conflict

Since I was young I have always had a strong fascination and curiosity in understanding how things worked. Over time, this curiosity led me to become increasingly critical towards certain topics such as religion and superstition.

In my polytechnic days, I had a classmate who, like myself, was a bit unorthodox, but in an entirely opposite fashion as he was extremely religious. We got along really well initially, as there were some common topics and past experiences to share. Conversations with him was always a delight – at least until when the topic of religion finally came up.

He had invited me to join him on a visit to church on a Sunday. I was hesitant to agree as I was highly introverted at the time and was not interested in meeting strangers, especially since it was for the cause of a higher power. It took me a while to say: “No.” and to my surprise, he appeared to be unfazed by my response. However, everything changed after this incident. He began telling me stories about his personal encounters with the lord and saviour.

At first, I took an accommodating stance and listened to what he had to say, hoping he would change the subject. Instead, he droned on and on. I was at the peak of my frustration and I challenged him on his beliefs. He of course was appalled at my sudden rebuttal and began reciting quotes from his bible. It was a tense situation as we argued on and on about our disagreements with each other’s views.

In the end, it was he who decided to give up on the argument and take on the avoidance stance. I followed suit. From that moment on, we hardly ever talked to each other as our relationship grew further and further apart.

To conclude, I feel that as humans we should always live by the quote “live and let live”. It is at many times, pointless to impose certain ideologies upon others, if it is not absolutely necessary. A confrontation may only end well if all parties are agreeable on one single goal: To better themselves.

Question: How would you personally interact with people who are overly sensitive and pushy at the same time?

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